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Sexual Performance !

Are you worried that you do not perform well enough in bed?

Having great sex normally takes your mind off of any worries that you may have and puts you in the moment of the most enjoyable act that life can offer you.

So for what reason are there so many men experiencing anxiety around the topic of sex? Why do they believe that they are just not good enough in bed? The answers to these questions are many. So right now I will take the time to address just a few.

In my experience, for the male the main problems in the bedroom seem to be centred around the following topics.

  • Will I be able to satisfy my partner sexual?
  • Is my penis big enough?
  • I am worried about pre-ejaculating or not ejaculating at all, and
  • If I don’t give her an orgasm I have failed to satisfy her as a lover.

To begin with, STOP thinking so much. This negative self talk is forming the basis for most of your performance problems. It’s driving you crazy and your penis is feeling the pain of your insecurities.

Now guys get out of your heads and into your heart space. If you want to satisfy her get over yourself. Clear your mind and put 100% focus on giving her pleasure by just being you. If she has an orgasm, that is fantastic. If not, it’s not the end of the world. The main objective here is to enjoy the feeling of togetherness. Focus on the feelings you experience when you touch one another. Savour the way you feel when you are intertwined as one.

Being relaxed and at ease whilst you are in a state of mindless intimacy relieves you of the pressure and anxiety of being a good performer. Some guys actually believe to be a good performer you have to have sex like you are racing a marathon. SLOW DOWN. It’s not a race and she certainly doesn’t want you to attempt to do intercourse for hours on end. Honesty, she will get bored if that’s what you think sex is all about. Take it easy. Breathe and feel into where you want this experience to take you.

Just another tip guys, if you feel that your penis size is the main problem, think again. As long as you have at least two inches in length and girth you can satisfy your partner. The majority of her nerve endings are located within the first two inches of the opening of her vagina. There are 8000 nerve endings in her clitoris alone! The old saying ‘ it’s not the size of your penis that counts, it’s the way you use it’, comes from a place of truth.

If you are genuinely concerned about your penis size or the strength of your erection, you can use a penis pump to help you increase the amount of blood flow drawn from your body to the shaft of your penis. You can also use a vibrating personal massager to help further elongate your penis. This is done by placing the massager on the perineum which is the area of skin between you testicles and your buttocks. Both gadgets are particularly great tools for men to use that have suffered from prostate cancer or that are experiencing prostate related issues.

There are also many different strategies that you can use to tackle pre-ejaculation. One way is to use a tight cock ring around the base of the penile shaft. This will help to keep blood in the shaft of the penis and constrict the amount of blood moving from your penis back into your body. Cock rings can also be used to make your orgasm more intense.

Ok, now that you have calmed down and you’re back in sync with what’s happening here enjoy your love making.

For further guidance or advice about this topic, email me info@intimateoptions.com.au  or call me on ph 0407 018 383.

Posted by in on Nov 29, 2013 .

Are you worried that you do not perform well enough in bed?

Having great sex normally takes your mind off of any worries that you may have and puts you in the moment of the most enjoyable act that life can offer you.

So for what reason are there so many men experiencing anxiety around the topic of sex? Why do they believe that they are just not good enough in bed? The answers to these questions are many. So right now I will take the time to address just a few.

In my experience, for the male the main problems in the bedroom seem to be centred around the following topics.

  • Will I be able to satisfy my partner...

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